I’d rather be a lonely lion than a popular sheep

My Happy Place

I am not one of those people who feel comfortable when asked, “Tell me a little about yourself.”

I clearly don’t have my elevator pitch nailed — yet!

What I can say is I have always loved reading books. As a child, I remember the 15-minute walk from my house to the nearest library. I spent hours browsing the shelves, then coming home and spending more hours reading. In hindsight, I wish I continued my passion for reading — it’s been on and off since then but never a constant stream.

“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but…


After 10 years there’s no going back

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I didn’t leave because the grass was greener; I left because I wanted to experience a different shade of green.

Ten years ago, when I moved from South Africa to Canada, I wanted my friends and family to follow. I was not the first from my circle of friends and family to leave S.A, but the most recent, to immigrate. I heard it all, from comments such as:

“It’s so cold in Canada!”

“What will you do there?”

“I don’t think I can leave my family,” with such casualty that it made me feel like I was abandoning mine.

On…


3 books that will change the way your kids express themselves

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When I was little, back in South Africa, I attended Montessori. Maria Montessori was a physician and educator. She started the Montessori method of teaching and opened her first school in 1907. The principles behind the Montessori method recognize that children learnt best in an environment through observation, self-direction and individualism.

As a parent, I wanted my children to attend and learn the Montessori way. Which was great because they attended preschool and daycare that incorporated the Montessori method.

Now that they have moved on from that environment to regular school, my expectations for them grew. Their little minds were…


The coincidence of events that appear meaningfully related but do not seem to be causally connected have more of an impact than you think

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I’ve had my share of coincidences, meaningful coincidences, and everything between. They were unseen messages from the universe, residing in daily life, incognito.

I’ve often wondered how certain people I know are so in tune with their lives. They seem to have everything figured out, even when life throws them a curveball. Did synchronicity have anything to do with it? I was so busy living life yet not participating.

“We do not create our destiny; we participate in its unfolding. Synchronicity works as a catalyst toward the working out of that destiny.” — David Richo

After a solo trip and…


My own word of the year

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There are less than 20 days left in 2020. An ideal time to reflect on what resonated with me the most about the year. I usually end up with one word, sometimes two.

For example, COVID-19 steered and swayed most of 2020. But, no matter how many times I’ve spoken the word — it will not leave an echo from my lips. It might, for many others, though. Some parents have even gone to the extent of naming their newborns Corona. Acknowledging the pandemic — the first in their life, and a reminder of their struggle and resilience to survive.


Somethings you only meant to realize later in life and accept that you didn’t wish you learned them sooner

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When you are in a relationship or married, do you feel defined in terms of that bond you have with someone? Before, it was you, and now you are ‘we.’ You go through life riding the highs with the lows. You bravely champion living for others, sacrificing yourself.

The most important part of a journey is where ever it is going. From learning to walk to riding a bike, our lives change direction over time, and we have to find new ways of becoming comfortable with the new terrain and setting our feet down wherever it leads us.

I’ve learned…


Now what? Anyone else given it a thought?

Return to post-COVID life
Return to post-COVID life
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I live in Canada, and as of this week, my province’s mandatory mask mandate was lifted, with a few exceptions such as transit and city-owned facilities. I’m surprised at the timing as I didn’t expect it to happen this soon. It’s part relief and part trepidation. But saying ‘this soon’ is relative. Considering we have been in this pandemic for a year and a half. Any parent will understand, it’s like saying: ‘The days are long but the years are short.’

So, how prepared are you to get back into the swing of things? I personally never thought about it…


Brace yourselves — it’s an oxymoron

Looking at the clock thinking: Why do I have to hurry up?
Looking at the clock thinking: Why do I have to hurry up?
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How many times have you heard the words — ‘Hurry up’ — as a child? And how many more times have you spoken the words as a parent?

Personally, I’ve spoken it more times than I’ve heard it. It’s strange because I didn’t grow up hearing it, but I found myself saying it way too often to my children.

In Arianna Huffington’s book Thrive, there is a chapter on “Hurry sickness.” She mentions a blog post in 2013 in The Huffington Post that went viral. It was titled, “The day I stopped saying ‘Hurry up,’ “ written by Rachel Macy…


Act out a character long enough and you will become it

Method acting to become what you want.
Method acting to become what you want.
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I know they say don’t dwell on the past and don’t dwell on the future — be in the present. If that’s the case and you are not thinking about your future, what are you doing now to create the future you desire.

“The future influences the present just as much as the past.” — Friedrich Nietzsche

Jim Carrey came from a poor upbringing but had big dreams. One day in 1990, he drove up the hill in California to look at the Hollywood sign. It was here that he wrote a cheque to himself:

“I wrote myself a check…


I learned the hard way that imperfection isn't always a bad thing

Being human is making mistakes
Being human is making mistakes
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Many many (extra for good measure) years ago and fresh out of University, I worked in a clinical laboratory setting. There was no room for error, and I learned early on to do things right the first time based on quality control. Do it right the first time, also known as DRIFT, is a managerial accounting technique to reduce production delays, reduce waste and increase efficiency.

It was a motto I lived by and even later passed on to my husband. …

Chetna Jai

My external words are the inner me. I value freedom, travel and change. Still contemplating the philosophy of life.

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