I’d rather be a lonely lion than a popular sheep

My Happy Place

I am not one of those people who feel comfortable when asked, “Tell me a little about yourself.”

I clearly don’t have my elevator pitch nailed — yet!

What I can say is I have always loved reading books. As a child, I remember the 15-minute walk from my house to the nearest library. I spent hours browsing the shelves, then coming home and spending more hours reading. In hindsight, I wish I continued my passion for reading — it’s been on and off since then but never a constant stream.


After 10 years there’s no going back

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I didn’t leave because the grass was greener; I left because I wanted to experience a different shade of green.

Ten years ago, when I moved from South Africa to Canada, I wanted my friends and family to follow. I was not the first from my circle of friends and family to leave S.A, but the most recent, to immigrate. I heard it all, from comments such as:

“It’s so cold in Canada!”

“What will you do there?”

“I don’t think I can leave my family,” with such casualty that it made me feel like I was abandoning mine.

On…


3 books that will change the way your kids express themselves

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When I was little, back in South Africa, I attended Montessori. Maria Montessori was a physician and educator. She started the Montessori method of teaching and opened her first school in 1907. The principles behind the Montessori method recognize that children learnt best in an environment through observation, self-direction and individualism.

As a parent, I wanted my children to attend and learn the Montessori way. Which was great because they attended preschool and daycare that incorporated the Montessori method.

Now that they have moved on from that environment to regular school, my expectations for them grew. Their little minds were…


The coincidence of events that appear meaningfully related but do not seem to be causally connected have more of an impact than you think

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I’ve had my share of coincidences, meaningful coincidences, and everything between. They were unseen messages from the universe, residing in daily life, incognito.

I’ve often wondered how certain people I know are so in tune with their lives. They seem to have everything figured out, even when life throws them a curveball. Did synchronicity have anything to do with it? I was so busy living life yet not participating.

After a solo trip and…


My own word of the year

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There are less than 20 days left in 2020. An ideal time to reflect on what resonated with me the most about the year. I usually end up with one word, sometimes two.

For example, COVID-19 steered and swayed most of 2020. But, no matter how many times I’ve spoken the word — it will not leave an echo from my lips. It might, for many others, though. Some parents have even gone to the extent of naming their newborns Corona. Acknowledging the pandemic — the first in their life, and a reminder of their struggle and resilience to survive.


The question isn’t ‘how to quit your…’ but rather why and what

Two way door decisions allow you to quit
Two way door decisions allow you to quit
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No one desires to quit. According to society’s standards, it’s discrediting — loser with a capital L to the forehead.

“The struggle is temporary. Quitting lasts forever.” — Lance Armstrong

Nothing is further from the truth than the above quote. There is no shame in quitting intentionally or strategically. It may look like taking that one step before failing. It’s not even the thing you do to avoid failure. It’s your intuition that warns you not of impending doom but of going down the wrong path. …


How curiosity led me to do without doing

Woman floating effortlessly in the water
Woman floating effortlessly in the water
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During my days as a digital marketer, I worked with a client who was a life coach. The content I had to craft for her was very positive, with rotating themes every month. She offered a variety of services, from workshops to one-on-one coaching to journaling to affirmations.

One word, in particular, she wanted me to use often was effortless — how you can create the life of your dreams effortlessly. A few of us at the time even laughed it off, thinking, was there really such a thing as achieving something effortlessly?

If you look at your life right…


How victim mentality strips you of your potential.

We’ve all been in that position — the feeling you get where you can’t help but feel like you’re trapped. Yet, you don’t do anything about it. And it happens again and again. We are the doer of our emotional victimhood.

Sometimes it becomes hard to place a finger on it. It’s a tug-of-war — who do you blame for ending up in that position. Others? — people who constantly blame other people or situations for…


They melt my heart and solidify theirs

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If you want to be creative, there are many ways to convey your love. The best ones are the least expected.

I miss my kids when they go to school. Though absent, they remain on my mind. And while they are busy learning and enjoying the company of friends, I want them to know that I am thinking about them. I say “I love you” throughout the day, outside of the regular times, such as in the mornings when they wake up, leave for school, and bedtimes. These feel routine. But the ones that are random surprises them. …


Allow this book to unleash the creativity already in you

Lightbulb showing creative ideas been born
Lightbulb showing creative ideas been born
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I was somewhat confident in my creative abilities. I had some proof to show that I could take a concept in my mind and turn it into something tangible. I loved the challenge. However, I had doubts about whether I could translate that to a career or other creative endeavours. I also looked to other creatives and wondered if you are born creative. That’s when I came across the book Creative Confidence: Unleashing the creative potential within us all by brothers Tom Kelley and David Kelley.

Chetna Jai

My external words are the inner me. I value freedom, travel and change. Still contemplating the philosophy of life.

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