I’d rather be a lonely lion than a popular sheep

My Happy Place

I am not one of those people who feel comfortable when asked, “Tell me a little about yourself.”

I clearly don’t have my elevator pitch nailed — yet!

What I can say is I have always loved reading books. As a child, I remember the 15-minute walk from my house to the nearest library. I spent hours browsing the shelves, then coming home and spending more hours reading. In hindsight, I wish I continued my passion for reading — it’s been on and off since then but never a constant stream.


After 10 years there’s no going back

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I didn’t leave because the grass was greener; I left because I wanted to experience a different shade of green.

Ten years ago, when I moved from South Africa to Canada, I wanted my friends and family to follow. I was not the first from my circle of friends and family to leave S.A, but the most recent, to immigrate. I heard it all, from comments such as:

“It’s so cold in Canada!”

“What will you do there?”

“I don’t think I can leave my family,” with such casualty that it made me feel like I was abandoning mine.

On…


3 books that will change the way your kids express themselves

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When I was little, back in South Africa, I attended Montessori. Maria Montessori was a physician and educator. She started the Montessori method of teaching and opened her first school in 1907. The principles behind the Montessori method recognize that children learnt best in an environment through observation, self-direction and individualism.

As a parent, I wanted my children to attend and learn the Montessori way. Which was great because they attended preschool and daycare that incorporated the Montessori method.

Now that they have moved on from that environment to regular school, my expectations for them grew. Their little minds were…


The coincidence of events that appear meaningfully related but do not seem to be causally connected have more of an impact than you think

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I’ve had my share of coincidences, meaningful coincidences, and everything between. They were unseen messages from the universe, residing in daily life, incognito.

I’ve often wondered how certain people I know are so in tune with their lives. They seem to have everything figured out, even when life throws them a curveball. Did synchronicity have anything to do with it? I was so busy living life yet not participating.

After a solo trip and…


My own word of the year

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There are less than 20 days left in 2020. An ideal time to reflect on what resonated with me the most about the year. I usually end up with one word, sometimes two.

For example, COVID-19 steered and swayed most of 2020. But, no matter how many times I’ve spoken the word — it will not leave an echo from my lips. It might, for many others, though. Some parents have even gone to the extent of naming their newborns Corona. Acknowledging the pandemic — the first in their life, and a reminder of their struggle and resilience to survive.


We are distorting our reality without knowing, making it appear better than it is

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Daniel Kahneman, a behavioural economist, observed: “Most of us view the world as more benign than it really is, our own attributes as more favourable than they truly are, and the goals we adopt as more achievable than they are likely to be.”

Let’s be frank — do you think you’re a better writer than you actually are? How optimistic are you in landing your articles in publications? When answering these questions, you will notice bias. And while it’s great to have that pushing you to continue writing, it can be bad thinking untoward events can’t happen to me, only…


Stop searching for the missing piece when it already exists within you

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“Nature makes of man merely a natural being; society makes of him a law-abiding being; only he himself can make of himself a free man.” — Rudolf Steiner.

Can you confidently say you have 100% freedom? If not, do you feel like you are living in captivity, without being behind bars, by responsibility, expectation, society?

I’m the youngest of three siblings and always thought to be the rebel in the family. Not being heard, I resisted at times and did what I wanted. The truth is, no one had the time to listen: they were too busy caring for members…


How to unlearn 5 words that no longer serve you.

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We live in an era where life-long learning is expected and encouraged for personal and professional development. Based on research done by upi.com, by the time native English-speaking Americans reach 20 years, they know an average of at least 42,000 words. By the time they turn 60, they will know at least 48,000.

Based on the information above, what percentage of words have a positive or negative effect on your life? Is there more benefit in learning new words than unlearning negative ones? In my house, the moment we recognize the increased use of words that are negative or have…


And 5 key takeaways from ‘Big Magic’

Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of Eat, Pray, Love which sold over 12 million copies worldwide and remained on The New York Times Best Seller list for 187 weeks, is a memoir that many reviewed highly.

Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear, also by the author, is a book with a unique viewpoint. Part memoir — injected with personal stories of the author, her friends, and acquaintances; part self-help — though she does confess in the book that she wrote it for herself and not the reader: “ I did not write this book for you; I wrote it for me…If…


Regardless of religion or faith, it has to speak to your soul

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Have you ever wondered if your calling is to:

  1. Choose your path or
  2. Follow the one chosen for you?

This question never entered my mind before. It was only after facing crossroads that I began to ponder.

As a child, I remember my mom believing and trying many different paths. I didn’t quite understand the reasons. All I knew was that we were of Hindu faith, and as everyone knows, we have many gods, but it’s one God with many names. She also fasted for different occasions and did many rituals. …

Chetna Jai

My external words are the inner me. I value freedom, travel and change. Still contemplating the philosophy of life.

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