I’d rather be a lonely lion than a popular sheep

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My Happy Place

I am not one of those people who feel comfortable when asked, “Tell me a little about yourself.”

I clearly don’t have my elevator pitch nailed — yet!

What I can say is I have always loved reading books. As a child, I remember the 15-minute walk from my house to the nearest library. I spent hours browsing the shelves, then coming home and spending more hours reading. In hindsight, I wish I continued my passion for reading — it’s been on and off since then but never a constant stream.


Make the seconds and hours count by asking some crucial questions

Time Is Free Yet It Comes With a Price Tag
Time Is Free Yet It Comes With a Price Tag
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When I visited London in September 2019, I was looking forward to seeing one of its most famous landmarks, Big Ben, the iconic clock tower.

Big Ben is the name given to the bell inside the tower, which is called Elizabeth Tower. Unfortunately, it was covered in scaffolding thanks to refurbishment work — which did take away the beauty and grandeur. I was disappointed, not having the opportunity to hear it chime.

Then I saw Little Ben. I wasn’t aware of its existence, how many people are? It stands in the middle of a traffic island. It’s a miniature version…


It isn’t always about what you do that makes you happy

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Photo by Isaiah Rustad on Unsplash

1. I don’t listen to opinions

Opinions are beliefs or judgments that fall short of absolute conviction, certainty, or positive knowledge. I hear them out of decency because we all entitled to our opinions. But that’s where the buck stops. Before it has an opportunity to get loud, I silence it and listen to my inner voice, my intuition.

2. I don’t add to my karmic debt

I practice gratitude, I forgive, I take responsibility for my actions or lack thereof, I nurture my spiritual self, releasing old negative thinking and conditioning to make room for the positive.


By swearing on someone’s life you will hold yourself more accountable

Quit Any Bad Habit or Addiction the Way My Father Did
Quit Any Bad Habit or Addiction the Way My Father Did
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Every morning, we light a lamp and say our prayers. A few weeks back, I found myself standing in front of the home temple, ready to take an oath in front of God, for something I wanted to stop doing. It made me think, up until this point, I had found it hard.

Now, standing in front of a higher power I’m able to do it — no sweat — and decide to commit to it 100%. The difference was obvious. Being accountable to myself didn’t cut it; being accountable to someone bigger than me, did.

What are some promises…


Don’t be afraid to raise your voice

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Image by Xan Xan from Pixabay

A forest is a place where your senses are swamped with sounds, the crunching of the dirt, the rustling of the leaves, the sweet melody of the birds.

One bird, born to sing, is now quiet. Gone were the stress-free and happy days. After years of roaming, feeling the freedom in her wings, and chirping, she has now fallen silent.

‘What was the point?’ she thought when your songs fall on deaf ears. The other birds were too busy preening their…


Ideas come from different sources so why give them the same home

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It’s common to struggle with what to write. Not everyone is talented and equipped to spill their minds guts onto paper. The struggle is real. Similar to living paycheck to paycheck, never knowing where your next meal is going to come from. The ultimate question is always where will the ideas come from. I’ve pondered whether writing, is as elusive as it’s made out to be. There are challenges, but also solutions along the way.

Writing is attainable. …


An interview or interrogation by a 5-year-old

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Photo by Prateek Katyal on Unsplash

My child asks too many questions. Why does he need to know everything? Is it going to increase his intelligence? The thing is, wouldn’t it make sense to ask intelligent questions, not rhetoric ones? And wouldn’t the essential requirement be to ask different questions every time? Hey, looking on the bright side, he might one day become a policeman, military personnel, work in intelligence and criminal justice. Or human resources.

According to Warren Berger, author of A More Beautiful Question, kids ask an average of 40,000 questions between 2 and 5. …


The story of house-hunting and a perfect sunrise

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Five years ago, I found myself with a long list of must-haves while embarking on a house-hunting expedition, to a point where it became an obsession.

I had an excel sheet drawn up with potential contenders. Columns dictating square footage, the number of bedrooms and bathrooms, wooden flooring, open floor plan, granite countertops, large deck, high cathedral ceilings, close to a playground…, the list went on. We saw forty plus houses that summer. It was a feat, dragging my 9-month-old son 3–4 times/week to viewings all across the city.

I found myself entitled, thinking I deserved it. I was determined…


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Image by 🎄Merry Christmas 🎄 from Pixabay

There is no clear cut answer on how to raise children. It’s a case of trial and error. If you have one child, everything is new and confusing. If you decide to have two or more, it’s not confusing anymore but different news, never the same. While we take it in our stride, we do look to others for guidance and advice — other moms, parents, particularly when it comes to screen time.

What are intelligent minds doing with their children?

Steve Jobs, the creator of the iPhone and iPad, admitted in 2010, he limited the amount of technology his kids use at home. And this was when…


When and how you choose to spend and receive energy says a great deal about you

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Image by Gerd Altmann from Pixabay

If anything, 2020 has taught me that we are dynamic beings. Many thrived in isolation. When I say many, I don’t mean only the introverts. Because contrary to what we believe, there aren’t only introverts or extroverts.

2020 was an eye-opener — if forced, we can be anything. Not one, or the other. But why not both depending on when the need arises.

The misconceptions that skew our beliefs

We want to fit into a box to justify our preferences. In this case, people have a misconception of…

Chetna Jai

My external words are the inner me. I value freedom, travel and change. Still contemplating the philosophy of life.

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